Dolly Alderton and I have a few things in common. We are tall; we write about dating; we are both half-way through a great party (apparently); and we have both been a decade in this game.
Along the way, she’s learnt a thing or two…
1. Mischief is what ties a couple together. Lust inevitably fades, mischief will be thrilling forever. Have cruel nicknames, get pissed, go on adventures, break rules. The couple that pranks together, stays together.
2. A good relationship is one where you take turns to be the parent for each other. A bad one is when this is unbalanced. Partners should both need each other equally, at different times, for different reasons.
3. Of course a first date should not be an activity, you mad asshat. Stop making it complicated. You should only ever be eating, drinking, talking or snogging on a first date.
4. If you really like someone, you really should not have sex with them on the first date. Sorry. I know. Annoying.
5. The greatest, filthiest, nastiest, most exciting sex you will ever have will be with someone you’re in love with. Sorry. I know. Boring.
6. There is no feeling more wonderful than when you first fall in love. And as corny as it is, there’s no bloody avoiding it. You think you’ve felt all the feelings possible and then it hits you — bam — a brand new one. Like suddenly experiencing hunger or lust or jealousy for the first time — there is love. It rampages through your entire body, awakening every cell and fibre as it goes. It turns you into a raving lunatic. You’ll notice the beautiful way the sun falls and the blossomy smell of the air. You’ll want to be just excellent to everyone. You’d happily empty your pockets and give it to anyone who needs it. You’ll wonder why anyone ever gets bothered about anything if they know this feeling exists. And suddenly you know everything will always be fine because you know, somewhere, this feeling exists.
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Dolly Alderton writes a regular dating column on newly relaunched men’s lifestyle site AskMen. Head to http://uk.askmen.com/dating/ for more from Dolly and AskMen’s other columnists.